"No! Try not. Do or do not. There is no try."

- Yoda
Pregnancy Update: 22 Weeks



How far along?
22 Weeks.
How big is baby Wilson? Roughly the size of a papaya, though at the last ultrasound we found out he's measuring a week ahead of schedule! (8-10 inches and almost 1 and a half pounds)
Maternity clothes? Most definitely.
Stretch marks? So far, so good. My belly hasn't grown too much the last couple weeks, so I think that probably helps.
Sleep: Still sleeping pretty hard, but it won't be long before I have to adjust my sleep position. My belly is starting to get in the way a bit...
Best moment this week: The 22 week ultrasound! We got to see him more around, examine all his little body parts and confirm he's a boy :wink:
Miss Anything? Not having to worry about back pain if I bend over, sit in the same position too long, etc.
Movement: Definitely! His movements are becoming much more obvious and I'm starting to notice them more frequently. Yesterday he was movin' and shakin' for almost 2 hours :-)
Food Cravings: I'm going to go ahead and claim cookies & cream ice cream. I could eat that stuff by the gallon.
Anything making you queasy or sick: Mostly just fish... and not eating frequently enough! Ha.
Labor Signs: Nope.
Belly Button in or out? Still in. I'm starting to wonder if I'll make it the long haul this way.
Wedding rings on or off? On.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy!
Looking forward to: More movement! It's the coolest feeling knowing my little guy is healthy and moving around in me. We've had at least two ultrasound technicians tell us he's very "squirmy." I have no idea where he gets that from :wink:

Strange Things Are Afoot

Ok, so quite possibly the weirdest thing to ever happen in my life unfolded tonight!

I went with some of the college guys from church to our traditional, end-of-study dinner to cap off the summer. We decided on Paul's Pizza Shop because pizza buffets and college guys go well together.

Shortly after approaching the counter I thought one of the workers there looked familiar and a named popped into my head, Adam Watson. I said, "You look familiar. What's your name?"

"Adam," he replied.

"Adam Watson?" I suggested.

"No. Adam Somethingerother."

"Oh, sorry. You look like someone I used to know."

Later in the dinner it was still bothering me as to why I thought he looked so familiar. So I toyed with the idea of pulling up a picture of Adam Watson on Facebook and showing this guy so he could see the resemblance. I at least wanted to prove to myself that he looked like the person I remembered.

So, I looked up Adam Watson on Facebook (yes, a bit stalker-ish, but I knew we had mutual Facebook friends so I didn't feel TOO creepy about it).

As soon as the real Adam Watson's picture pops up on my phone, I realize he doesn't look anything like the guy working at Paul's Pizza. So now I'm really confused as to why I made the association. Then it dawns on me that the pizza guy might resemble Wayne Watson, Adam's dad. So I Google a picture of Wayne Watson to confirm my suspicions and find that I was right! The pizza guy looks a little like Wayne Watson looked at one point in time. Enough to trigger all these associations, anyway. But then it gets SUPER WEIRD.

RIGHT AFTER THAT, THE REAL LIFE ADAM WATSON WALKS INTO PAUL'S PIZZA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It was ca-razy. I was freaking out. I don't really even know Adam Watson. I just met him like 15 years ago and haven't seen him since. I told the college guys I was with who agreed that this was a freaky occurrence and then I got up and told Adam Watson all about it, too! I'm sure he thinks I'm a complete basket case, but I wasn't worried about it. He had to hear this nonsense.

And I'm so weirded out by it all that I decided to tell the world (or anyone willing to read our blog.)

Pregnancy Update: 20 Weeks



How far along? 20 WEEKS. WoOooOoah we're halfway there! WooOoooah livin' on a prayer!
How big is baby Wilson? The size of a banana (7 in, 11 oz). He's almost a full pound!
Maternity clothes? Almost always. I only have a couple of regular items that are long enough to cover this growing belly :-)
Stretch marks? Not yet. I'm hoping I've just got some good genes on my side!
Sleep: Thankfully I still haven't had any major sleep issues. I'm sleeping through the night, just wishing the nights were a little longer!
Best moment this week: Feeling Deacon move last Sunday! I'm still not 100% convinced it was him, but it was convincing enough for me to count it :wink: An added bonus was that Jeremy got to feel him too (even if he thought it was just my stomach gurgling)!
Miss Anything? Coffee. Iced coffee. Frappuccinos. And coffee.
Movement: Yes! Or at the very least I had some unexplained stomach movement.
Food Cravings: Nothing noteworthy, but there have been two times this past week that I really wanted a Sonic Cranberry Sprite.
Anything making you queasy or sick: Fish. Sometimes I feel like I'll never be able to eat it again...
Labor Signs: Nope.
Belly Button in or out? In, but starting to look "different." Haha.
Wedding rings on or off? On.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy! I've had more energy the past couple of days, so that has been a huge help.
Looking forward to: Baby boy's anatomy scan ultrasound on the 19th! I can't wait to see him again and count all those fingers and toes :-)

The Millennial Melee

As with many recurring hot topics, young people fleeing from being driven from leaving churches has caught some momentum in recent weeks with points and counterpoints flying back and forth across the blogosphere.

Millennials are leaving churches and it's a problem. But is the trend of young people leaving or not staying in church a new problem? And whose problem is it? Are churches lacking authenticity and the exaltation of Jesus? Or are the young people too fickle or not even believers to begin with? Maybe it's a mix of all of the above.

There have been insightful words spoken from all sides of the argument. Some saying young people just want to be heard and aren't looking for pretense. Some saying churches should seek to be uncool. I'm prone to contrarianism, so I find myself thinking, "Yes, but..." with a lot of what I've read.

For starters, many young people find churches inhospitable, if not hateful toward those with differing beliefs and lifestyles. While I agree that a LOT of Christians (myself included) have mistreated people who disagree with them (and have throughout time), I still get a sense that many are looking for Christians/churches to accept opposing beliefs under the banner of tolerance and respect. I think that's wrong (and a false dichotomy that doesn't allow for moral disagreement and human respect to coexist.)

It's been suggested that focusing on what we're for rather than what we're against might cause people to stick around. From a pastoral perspective, I think you have to proclaim both.

If a life in Christ looks a certain way, it also does NOT look a certain way (Galatians 5:16-26). This WILL cause people to leave churches. Jesus Himself had this happen (John 6:22-66). He could have just preached what they all agreed on, but that wasn't His full counsel. So, if editing what churches teach/preach is the key to keeping people in churches, count me out. Hopefully that isn't the sentiment being suggested.

There are things that Christians believe, because the Bible says them, that will always make certain people feel unwelcome in a sense. There is no getting around that. What we need to do, by the power of the Holy Spirit, is be kind to everyone while still being able to correct with gentleness (2 Timothy 2:24-25). Kindness and correction are not mutually exclusive. It's when Christians fail to season truth with grace that the tone repels rather than the message. God forbid it be the messenger that is being rejected.

Loving our/God's enemies seems to be the snag. Are we desiring and pursuing the good of others? Because that's love. Coddling is not love. Neither is assuming the role of wrath-dispenser.

As far as keeping things cool, uncool, whathaveyou... we need simply to strive for authenticity. This is scary, because authenticity requires transparency. And we all know transparencies and overheads are NOT cool. Oh, sorry, wrong transparency...

Being transparent means being vulnerable and that is counter to most church cultures. As far as being "cool?" Just be who you are. I've worshiped with really genuine, authentic congregations that had multi-thousand dollar projection systems and wireless in-ear monitors for the musicians, etc. AND I've worshiped with really genuine, authentic congregations that gathered in a small room without electricity. If it's Spirit-driven and Christ-centered, it's all good. As soon as it becomes, "our fog machine is bigger than your fog machine," we've derailed. One of the biggest realizations I've experienced in ministry (in America's 4th largest city) is that you cannot get caught up in the coolness competition. Some church will always be cooler than yours. And the culture of the world will ALWAYS be cooler than all of you.

Culture is not to be competed with or retreated from. It is to be redeemed. And by that I don't mean we need to high-jack the icons of the unbelieving world and Jesus-fy them (Abreadcrumb and Fish, anyone?). That is not culture war. Culture war is preaching against the attitudes and idols of this world so that hearts are transformed and culture is as a result. Pointing people away from idol worship hinges on pointing people toward Christ worship.

So, those are my jumbled, first-glance thoughts on the new age-old dust up. I'm sure it won't be a problem for anyone else now or for ages to come! Heh